Asian Matchmaker in New York City | Toi & Moi Matchmaking
For high-achieving Asian and Asian American professionals who are done with apps, done with bad fits, and ready for a relationship that actually makes sense for their whole life.
Asian Dating in New York Is Complicated. You Already Know That.
You're accomplished, socially fluent, and clear on what you want. But dating in NYC keeps producing the same frustrating results — people who don't understand your background, your ambitions, or the cultural layers you navigate every single day.
Maybe you're Chinese American and tired of explaining why family expectations aren't a dealbreaker, they're just context. Maybe you're Korean, South Asian, or Japanese American, and you want a partner who gets what that means — whether or not they share your heritage. Maybe you're navigating interracial dating and wish someone could help you find a match who genuinely understands cross-cultural relationships.
That's exactly what Toi & Moi was built for.
Most matchmaking services treat cultural background as a checkbox. At Toi & Moi, it's the starting point.
Founder Sophie Kaemmerle brings deep expertise in identity, intersectionality, and the specific dynamics that shape dating for Asian and Asian American professionals in New York. Whether you're looking for a partner within your community or across cultural lines, Sophie's approach goes beyond surface compatibility — she looks at attachment style, communication patterns, values, and the relationship ingredients that actually predict long-term success.
This isn't a database. It's a curated, personal process — and it's built around you.
What makes Toi & Moi different:
Identity-aware matchmaking grounded in relationship science (Gottman, Aron, Johnson)
Deep expertise in cross-cultural and interracial relationships
A curated network of high-quality, relationship-ready singles across New York City
Honest coaching alongside introductions — so you show up ready
A methodology developed specifically for high-achieving professional women
A New York Asian Matchmaker Who Sees Your Whole Story
Asian Matchmaking Services in New York City
Full-Service Matchmaking
Sophie personally curates every introduction. You'll have a deep consultation, a clear understanding of what you're looking for, and a thoughtful process from first match to post-date debrief. Available to clients across Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, and the broader NYC metro area.
Not ready for full matchmaking, or want to work on your approach first? Dating coaching sessions help you identify patterns, recalibrate your radar, and build the confidence and clarity to date strategically — not anxiously.
Dating Coaching for Asian American Men and Women
Navigating interracial or intercultural dynamics — whether in your search or an existing relationship — requires a specific kind of fluency. Toi & Moi offers consulting for clients who need a thoughtful partner in thinking through those dynamics.
Cross-Cultural Relationship Consulting
Serving New York's Asian Professional Community
Toi & Moi works with a diverse range of Asian and Asian American clients across New York City, including:
Chinese and Chinese American professionals navigating family expectations, career demands, and modern dating
Korean and Korean American singles looking for meaningful connection — within or outside their community
South Asian and Indian American women balancing cultural values with personal autonomy in their search for a partner
Japanese and Japanese American professionals seeking curated, private introductions
Southeast Asian American clients whose cultural complexity deserves more than a generic match
Anyone drawn to a cross-cultural relationship and wanting expert guidance through it
If your identity shapes how you date — and it does — you deserve a matchmaker who already understands that.
Frequently Asked Questions About Asian Matchmaking in New York and Beyond
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An Asian matchmaker is a professional who specializes in connecting Asian and Asian American singles with compatible partners — taking into account cultural values, family dynamics, and identity alongside standard compatibility factors like communication style and life goals.
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Dating apps like Hinge or East Meet East rely on algorithms and self-selection. Toi & Moi is a fully personalized, human-led process — Sophie meets with you, learns your story, and curates introductions based on deep compatibility, not just profile matches.
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Yes. Toi & Moi serves clients throughout New York City, including Brooklyn, Queens, and the Tri-State area, as well as clients willing to travel to NYC for introductions.
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Not unless that's what you want. Many clients come to Toi & Moi because they're navigating cross-cultural or interracial dating and want a matchmaker with fluency in that space — not just one who defaults to same-background matches.
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Book a consultation directly on this site. The first conversation is a chance to share what you're looking for and hear honestly whether Toi & Moi is the right fit for your goals.
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Yes, we work with Asian and Asian American singles across the United States.
Ready to Work With New York's Most Identity-Aware Matchmaker?
You've built a remarkable life. Your relationship should match it — and it should make sense for all of who you are.
Toi & Moi Matchmaking serves Asian and Asian American professionals across New York City who are ready to stop leaving love to chance.