Matchmaking & Dating Coaching for Neurodivergent and Disabled Adults

Care. Compassion. Curiosity. We treat every client with the respect, dignity, and thoughtfulness they deserve.

Toi & Moi Matchmaking works with autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, and disabled adults who are ready for matchmaking or coaching that starts from how you actually think, feel, and connect. We collaborate with Kate Harrington of Harrington Matchmaking to provide informed and inclusive access to matchmaking and coaching.

Two ways to work with us:

  • Matchmaking for neurodivergent and disabled singles

We get to know you — your communication style, your sensory needs, your non-negotiables, the way you actually want to be approached — and we vet every introduction against that, not against a swipe-friendly profile.

What this looks like in practice:

  • An intake process built for direct, structured communication

  • Matches vetted for compatibility in communication style, sensory/social needs, and more

  • Optional support around disclosure (when and how to share a diagnosis or access need with a match)

  • Feedback after every date, delivered in a clear, considerate, and respectful manner

  • A pace that respects your emotional and physical bandwidth

Who this is for: Apps weren’t created with disabled and neurodivergent individuals in mind. Matchmaking services are best suited for adults who want someone to manage the filtering, the vetting, and the follow-up.

Apply for matchmaking here.

  • One-on-one dating coaching for autism, ADHD, and AuDHD adults

If you're not ready for matchmaking, or you want support running your own dating life more sustainably, coaching gives you a structured, judgment-free space to work through strategy, challenges, and patterns.

Examples of what we work on together:

  • Reading interest and disinterest without the guesswork

  • Managing rejection-sensitive dysphoria after a date goes quiet

  • Scripts and structures for first messages, first dates, and other high-impact conversations

  • Sensory-aware date planning (venue, noise, lighting, timing)

  • Disclosure strategy: what to share, when, and how much

Who this is for: Adults who want dating tools and a thinking partner.

Book your free Discovery call here.

Frequently Asked Questions:

  • No. Self-identification is respected here. Plenty of clients are self-identified, in the process of assessment, or simply know they think and communicate differently.

  • Never without your explicit go-ahead. Disclosure is always your call — we can help you think through timing and wording, but we don't disclose on your behalf.

  • That's a completely reasonable thing to be wary of. Our starting point is that the mismatch between generic dating advice and how you actually operate is what we're solving for. You are never the problem.

  • Matchmaking and coaching are available remotely, wherever you are.

  • Apps like Dateability, Hiki, and Atypikoo give you a pool. We provide the pool, the vetting, the coaching, and the follow-through. These are often the parts that take the most energy.

Ready to talk?

A discovery call is a low-pressure, no-pitch conversation to figure out if matchmaking or coaching is the right fit. We’ll let you know how we can best help you.

Book your free Discovery Call here.